ADHD? Never Have the Same Sex Twice!

I totally lucked out a few months ago when I met some of the awesome folks at Cleis Press and was invited to review books for them every once-in-a-while. Given that I love books, love sex, love sex books, and love writing book reviews, I figure I totally scored. And recently, I got in the mail a copy of Never Have the Same Sex Twice, by Allison Tyler. Please, twist my arm to read that one! *grin*

Tyler is a writer of erotica and editor of erotic anthologies. For fifteen years, she has also been in a monogamous relationship “filled with extreme, kinky, crazy, never-have-the-same-sex-twice sort of sex (from the intro).” Never Have the Same Sex Twice—part how-to guide and part erotic anthology--is filled with simple tips about how anyone can make their own sex lives as spicy as Tyler and her long-time partner do.

What I love about this book is that Tyler does not rely on exposition to explain the variety of ways to have fabulous sex; instead, she introduces each of her tips briefly, without over-explaining, and then vividly illustrates, with erotic stories and excerpts, a variety of ways folks have lived out and fantasized about those very suggestions. In doing so, she entices the reader's own erotic imaginations, encouraging us, by example, to fantasize about and create our own hot sex scenes with our own partners. The chapters are short and easy (not to mention hot!) to read, and each chapter is followed by an erotic story to illustrate the theme of the chapter. Consequently, the book itself keeps the reader engaged, and provides generous food-for-thought about ways to keep our sex lives as hot and engaging as the book itself.

The thing is, perhaps without even knowing it, Tyler has written a perfect guide for those of us with AD/HD, which is why I just had to share it here. The short chapters are ideal for an ADD attention-span, and the steamy erotica is great for those of us who like a high level of stimulation and who require a high level of interest to stay hooked into a book. Don't like to read from start to finish? Fine--in this book you can feel free to jump around as you wish. As anyone with AD/HD knows, having novelty is an important part of staying engaged and excited, and Tyler suggests that even in a long-term monogamous relationship, there's no reason to have the same sex twice. Sound appealing? Even just the title is great advice for those of us with ADD! Most of all, Tyler encourages her readers to do what many of us with AD/HD do best—use our own imaginations to take a great idea and make it our own.

But whether or not you have AD/HD, I recommend this book to anyone who wants a few ideas of ways to spice up their sex lives, whether or not you have one long-time partner, many once-only partners, or relationships somewhere in between.